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Today, I was surprising my husband because our sex life is lacking. We have planned sex tuesday night, every week, with the lights off. When he came home for lunch, I was nude and waiting for him. He took one look and said, "I forgot you looked like that. Meh, I'm going back to work." FML

tell him to shove it!! what an ass!!

Well if she let her self go after marriage then she totally deserved it. He shouldn't have to have sex with some woman he's not attracted to. In this case it does seem like she did let herself go because she said her sex life is lacking, meaning it used to be better, meaning her husband had no problem banging her before, which means she used to look better.

I would like to think that people who are getting married have a better reason to do so than just physical and sexual attraction. Even if she did let herself go a little bit, he could have just sat her down and talked to her about it instead of insulting her like he did. What he said to her and the way he said it is incredibly rude. That's like the FML about that one guy who wanted to divorce his wife because she wouldn't have sex with him right after she had given birth...so ridiculous. OP: Definitely tell your husband how his comment offended him and ask him what it is about you that apparently is so horrible in his eyes...it may be an easy fix.

Maybe you should have stayed in shape, if not for him then for yourself. Hate it as much as you will, appearances do matter. No one wants to bang a bean bag chair, if you catch my drift. No matter what anyone says, if you're not even trying to make an effort to be attractive, then you don't have any room to complain of your husband not having and sex drive...

What the fuck is wrong with people?! Way to put the poor woman down even further, seriously. A woman does put on weight, not have her old looks as she gets older.. True love is about loving someone, for who they are. And truly, if he really had a problem, then he should have sat her down and sensitively talked about how he felt she wasn't doing herself justice. You don't even know that she's put on weight, or that she's let herself go, He could just be being a dick! The people on here sometimes make me so angry. No one should ever be talked to like that - 'I forgot you looked like that' - that's downright outrageous! She's probably had kids, and kept the weight from it, Or perhaps she has a few wrinkles cause she doesn't have botox. Honest to god. People are so obsessed with looks these days - they do matter, but if you love someone, you love them no matter what.

Amen. I agree 100% with this.

Amen.

yay for projection~

@109 apparently 'love' to you is the same as 'fuck'. where in this post did it say hey said he doesnt love her anymore? hmmm?

@142 I'm pretty sure if he still loved her he wouldn't have said something so hurtful at a time when she was so vulnerable. Just sayin'.

Dude seriously!?!?! Cmon even though you probably see the world with rose colored glasses it doesn't work that way. Even though it would be better if the world was like that, it's not.

Unconditional love is foolish. It puts the unconditional lover at a big disadvantage. Who the hell came up with the idea of blind dedication being a good thing? They must've been a virgin or something.

Aw, I was almost first. I wanted to post "First!" and annoy everyone here... oh well @OP: lol married life's never the way you picture it

im gonna vote you down for attempted "first" annoyance

don't worry, you still accomplished what you set out to do. Consider yourself annoying. And a fucktard.

Lmao, hilarious. FYL

#4 you're a fucking retard, why don't you go back to the barn and bang your sister sometime. This is definitely a FYL, because frankly, even if married life isn't all peaches and cream, all the time, your husband is an ass for doing that. The least he could have done was told a white lie about needing to get back to work and he couldn't get it on with you then. But to outright say he wasn't interested because apparently you don't live up to some standard? What a dick.

#6, you're the retard. #4 was just trolling to get a response.

Obvious troll is obvious. #6 is an idiot. Also, If your sex life is that important to you OP you might consider divorce. Sex is a big part of marriage, and feeling close to the one who you're spending all your days with is kind of a big deal, and if he doesn't want any part of that and/or feels closer to his job than you, then just drop him.

OMG. I didn't know Janderson the troll was back. I looked forward to a lot of those, Men are the root of all evil and enslave women. If men didn't rule the world then there would be 1 trillion more women in this world and all the sexist, bigotted retarded he/she makes on this site. At first I thought the bridge collapsed that housed this troll but it seems I was wrong. Glad to see that trolls are like cockroachs and will outlive the rest of us.

#6 = pwned The problem isn't WIVES letting themselves get fat; the problem is PEOPLE let themselves get fat. People act like not being morbidly obese is impossible, and that eating like a normal human being is impossible.

#4 You bigot twat. Go crawl under a rock.

cuz a white lie is better than telling the honost truth? being his wife and all at the very least she deserves that.

Lies, white or otherwise, are far, FAR worse than having standards.

I seriously think Jandersoniiis account got hacked or something, because she went from being a crazy ass feminist with crackpot theories/statistics to sounding like some retarded frat boy trying to be funny and saying women should only be cooking, cleaning, and SD.

Janderson WOOT! WOOT! Y not the usual women empowerment remarks though? This makes me upside down face :( @OP: Ha ha, maybe you should go back to the lights off thing. Clearly, your nude body isn't pleasing to the eye. Not saying that his is that of Adonis, but still......there's a reason why the lights are out. To everyone saying he doesn't love her and she's the only one trying. Ever think that he truly cares about everything about her except sex? The simple fact that they have to plan it should be an indicator. Or maybe his compromise was the lights out thing, and her deviating from that made him remember why they started that in the first place. Just putting that out there.

#4 your a fucking fucktard you probaly one of those husbands that beat their wvies around telling them to do shit

@#4: You're doing it wrong. D: And #6 is retarded. @OP: FYL. :]

I hate when people say "Meh,". YDI for being fat. Go exercise.

never said she was fat

Well why the hell else would her husband say, "I forgot what you looked like.. Nevermind!" If she had a nice body he wouldn't pass up the sex. I hate how wives these days let themselves get fat, ugly and flabby and then when their husband doesn't want to sleep with them/cheats on them, they complain. WTF. Go make yourself look sexy.

lol that was pretty extensive trolling right there #13. most trolls try to keep it to one sentence, but you showed them who's boss.

Yeah, 13, because we live to please men. If you're not gonna be man of the year, don't expect us to be a freakin' Barbie.

You're incredibly intelligent. It must have taken you, what? Ten minutes to come up with that response.. And hells to the yeah, I did.

@ selenes um, excuse me? how old are you, 12? i suggest you get over your little self-important misogynist attitude before you end up all alone.

If you let yourself go and get fat that means you have no respect for yourself, so why should anyone else give you any respect.

#19, I'm not a man. But if women expect men to "want" them, stay in shape! Just like women want their husbands to stay in shape, they need to do the same. It isn't that hard, either, to watch your weight. #22, where do you get that I "hate women". I'm a woman. I'm just tired of people getting out of shape and expecting their husband to be over enthusiastic to jump in the sack with them. If you looked good before you were married, keep in shape. No one wants a fat lump.. I've seen it done before, too. It's possible. Let yourself go and you get what you get. Wanna look like a fat slob? Well you're not going to attract your husband. It's simple logic. Stop acting like because I see fat, young married women and I get disgusted, that I'm suddenly a misogynist.

okay, my bad. maybe you're not misogynist, just someone with real weight issues. honestly, you get disgusted by people who are overweight? and we have no idea that the husband here isn't a "fat slob" as well, do we?

To everyone saying that she didn't let herself go or whatnot, let's put it this way. Men are visual creatures. We like boobs, butts, curves, etc. Some people are BBW lovers, others like athletic builds. Now if her husband doesn't want to have sex with her either a) he's got a girl on the side, b) she let herself go, c) the spark is gone for another reason. It's hard figuring out which is the right answer but like it's been stated, men are visual creatures and if the wife let herself go then that's probably the reason they have sex in the dark and he didn't want to have sex now since he's seen her in teh light. Not saying it's right but that seems to be the way the situation was.

How do you know the OP let herself go? not all married women 'let themselves go'. Yes i agree that most women start to loose their body and shape, but alot has to do with: having children, their metabolism, menopause, and aging. So please, don't be so quick to assume that women decide to loose themselves because they dont care, because infact all these women do care and it is nearly impossible to get back in shape after you have experienced one or more of the experiences i mentioned above. Also, your a women. You should be able to understand these things before you make n ignorant comment like you did.

amen brother, YDI because she needs to lay off the donuts

#32 - Yes, I get disgusted by overweight obese people. I'm not obese, so it's easy for me not to. I'm guessing you're offended because you're overweight? Go on a diet then, work your ass off. Once again, I HAVE SEEN IT DONE. #36 - I should be able to understand? My Mother had children. I have had a child a year ago. A few weeks after I spent most of my free time working out (when I wasn't attending to my baby) And I got my pre-baby shape right back. My husband was not complaining about my post-baby body but I hated the feeling of even slight lovehandles. So I got my shape back. When my mother had four children, she bounced back to her old weight by exercising whenever she could. I've learned from the best, I know. (:

I'm sorry, selenes, but not all people feel the need to define themselves by their weight. I know this may surprise you, but some overweight people are actually (get this) happy with themselves, and don't feel like they have to spend "most of their free time" working out because, you know, they have other things to do. Strange concept, huh? (also: i'm 5'6" and 120 lbs. not overweight by any stretch of the imagination, but i'm definitely not disgusted by people who are, seeing as i don't think a little extra fat makes someone unworthy of my respecting them as a human being.)

Wow Selenes, just wait until time turns you into a sagging, wrinkly old harpy. If you're willing to accept a man into your life who plans to renege on his wedding vows just because his wife no longer suits his ideal image, you're in for a fun (and well-deserved) surprise.

"I'm not obese, so it's easy for me not to." oh, and what the hell does this mean?

Selenes, children learn by example. Please grow the fuck up already before you inadvertently raise the next generation to be bitchy, insecure, image-obsessed stick insects. (and no honey, before you try to use it as justification to declare my views invalid, I'm not fat)

Okay so you worked out? Congrats for being able to do that. Considering I can't. Just a note for later in life: Don't judge others by your own standards for yourself? =) Okay? It doesn't work.

Oh my gosh, we need more people like you in the USA!! I'm serious as well.. I really wish a lot of people would care about their weight, but they can't stop eating fast food....it's sad because it's mostly their fault.... and their not doing anything to stop it! =/

ok, so anyone who is overweight has "no motivation"? it astounds me how ignorant some people are. as i've stated before, there are actually people out there who are overweight and happy with their lives. you don't have to base your self-worth on what the scale tells you, despite what the TV says. and it's pretty immature to assume that all the people who disagree with you are just "obese bitches." oh, because there's something so bitchy about accepting people for who they are, not judging them by their appearance alone, etc? again, i'm 5'6", 120 lbs, and i don't assume anyone with a bit of extra weight is just some unmotivated slob. but obviously i must just be completely retarded.

yes, there is such thing as being overweight and being healthy. there's also such thing as being "normal" weight and being UNhealthy. it has to do with heart health, exercise, right nutrition, etc. it's a lot more than how much you weigh. and who are we to judge someone on what they choose to do with their own bodies, even if it is unhealthy? it doesn't affect you, get over it.

# 19: I love it!

You can look fat and still be a healthy weight. People who are disgusted by overweight people are the ones who disgust me. I think it's disgusting to be disgusted by someone because of minor flaws in their appearance. I mean, sure, if someone was missing an eye and didn't put a patch over that shit, I'd be disgusted by their appearance. However, I wouldn't be disgusted by the actual person, just their appearance. And really, you spent all your freetime working out? Working out that much can actually be unhealthy. Also, you could be doing something better with your freetime. You could be reading a book about how people who are overly judgmental on appearance are ruining our society by giving young girls the impression that they should have low self worth if they are not underweight. For the record, I'm not fat. Women who feel the need to judge another woman's weight like you have done make me sick.

selenes, don't use the phrase "hells to the yeah." it makes you sound more retarded than you already are.

To Theanonimouse: I have to agree with Selenes partially. Honestly if my girlfriend were to let herself go and become really unattractive, sex wouldn't seem as appealing, I would still love her, but I wouldnt have the desire to get in the sack as often. I'm not saying girls have to be twigs like the models displayed on TV where you can see their ribs, but I think if its to make a compromise with their husband/boyfriends, girls should try to stay in shape, as well as the guys. Relationships are based off of communication and compromise, although I may not agree with how the OPs husband commented on her physique, he is entitled to his opinion. You shouldn't criticize him because hes a bit repulsed by his wifes huskier build, it doesn't mean he doesn't love her anymore, sex just doesn't appeal to him as much anymore. To the people who think its despicable for a person to be repulsed by overweight people: Everyone has their own preference, not everyone is going to be attracted to overweight women/men. BUT thats no reason to prejudge someone and automatically label them because they could be great people.

i understand if he isn't sexually attracted to her anymore. he has every right to feel that way. however, he does not have the right to put her down and make such negative comments. i agree with your statement that "relationships are based off of communication and compromise," and think the OP's husband could def use some pointers on this. a better way to let your wife know you are no longer attracted to her due to weight gain would be suggesting going for a walk together, making healthier meals together, asking her to join the gym with you, etc, instead of just making some nasty, hurtful comment while she's sprawled out there naked. i mean, that was a pretty low blow. as far as i'm concerned, if you loved someone, you wouldn't do something like that.

I agree that his comment was a bit innappropriate, but I don't think he meant for his comment to be as negative as it came out. Sometimes us guys speak before thinking and can say something that can be conceived as hurtful unintentionally, but he may have intentionally said it to be offensive because hes an ass, who knows :D. But from what Im getting out of reading this FML is that her husband tried to get past her physical appearance and still have a sex life by doing it in the dark, so I think he may be genuinely trying to make it work.

drwklf, How can you throw out the general accusation that all overweight people have no motivation when you yourself assert that you don't work out because you "don't have to." Exercise should be a part of a balanced, healthy lifestyle that helps you maintain your physical fitness; which, in turn, aides you in other aspects of your life. Exercise is not something that people are required to do so that they can fit into size 0 and 00 jeans. Often, people who are on the higher end of a healthy weight according to bmi (which is, by the way, a 200 year old calculation designed to provide general data for a census and is, therefore, not a reliable means of measuring one's health); anyhow, there are people at the higher end of a healthy weight or even slightly overweight who could run circles around a thin person who doesn't exercise. Which of these sounds healthier? Also, many thin people have very high body fat and very little muscle. Additionally, to surmise that the people who have commented before in defense of the OP are overweight simply because they are open-minded enough to sympathize with someone in a position that they may not have ever been in is extremely ignorant. Our society places far too much emphasis on the superficial. Assuming that the OP is overweight, the concerns should be for her health and not for her appearance. The first thought her self-involved husband has shouldn't be regarding how bad she looks, but instead what he can do to help her lead a healthier lifestyle. Of course, we don't know that he isn't himself overweight and merely holds a double standard. Many of the intolerant, uninformed, and just simply hurtful people here are great examples of why sometimes an informative book may do a person more good than the latest trendy diet.

DUDE, #186, SHUT THE FUCK UP. NOBODY FUCKING CARES WHAT YOU THINK. FMYLIFE.COM CHANGED THE MOTTO BECAUSE OF PEOPLE LIKE YOU. SHUT UP.

Congratulations on the well-formed counter-argument. Incidentally, you seem to care since you posted such an inflamed response.

#187 uh, what was the original motto?

it was something like, 'my life sucks but i dont give a f**k'

kick him in the face, he DID marry you.

you clearly forgot what time it was. Lunch. not nighttime. ydi for ignoring your own schedule

Well that's a fucked up thing to say. Still, way too many people in committed relationships let themselves go because they get too comfortable. I don't know how you look, but remember, you should maintain good physical health if only for your own self respect. Still, no excuse. The guy's a prick.

Ouch...damn...sorry about that...FYL

Not sure what to say... YDI for being unattractive but FYL for trying (good move) and being rejected...

This didn't happen.

Okay, if he AGREED to a weekly schedule, then FYL. But if you just felt like it, who says he should feel the same? I know most guys would gladly entertain such advances (given that the girl is attractive), but if a woman can reject, so can a man.

#19, I'm actually a woman. And no man expects Barbie. They just expect you to stay in shape and not dress like a she-man. It's not that hard to do your hair, put some make up on or exercise.

YDI for being monogamous.

wow u must look pretty fucking ugly

That's what "divorce and finding a real man" sounds like. However, like cpatrick820 said, if you've stopped exercising and you were doing that sort of thing before, you should keep doing it -- not making any assumptions or anything, just covering possible situations. If you feel that you've made every possible effort, without slowly killing yourself (i.e. starving), to keep in shape then it's really time to stop being clingy or settling down. Ditch him, being married isn't worth being treated like dirt.

owned lol

Ugh people are so obsessed with sex, I hate it

Sweetie, you're 15. You're not allowed to have an opinion about sex, because you don't know anything about it. Now go do your homework.

She has every right to have an opinion on sex. Why do adults assume that teenagers don't have to deal with the thought of sex everyday? With the perverted mainstream music, the perverted high school boys, and the perverted reality shows, we might just have to deal with it more often than adults. Maybe if you would open your eyes, you would realize that.

Most of the people I know first started learning about sex when they were 10. At 15 she's quite old enough to know about sex, and in all probability knows more about it than you. Now ease your foot out of your mouth and use it to sharply kick yourself off the computer.

why don't you do that to him on a Tuesday night. then pull out a vibe instead LOL

what an asshole

Guys, maybe she's not fat. Maybe she just has no boobs. Anyway, if he married you for looks than you're fucked. If he didn't, then he shouldn't be rejecting you because of your looks, it shouldn't matter to him. Sex is sex, for God's sake!! Who passes that shit up?!

EXACTLY!! Besides, I can guarantee you chances are that OP's husband is the over weight one, not her. He's insecurities more than likely account for him not wanting to sex anytime other than tuesday nights in the dark. She probably still looks like the bombshell she was when they got married and he does not. Therefore, when he came home in the middle of the day and saw her naked in the daylight, he probably freaked from the prospect of having to show himself in the daylight as well, and insulted her out of jealousy just to get away. Whatever the case, bottomline: He gets no love at all from her anymore, and i'm betting she can go out and please herself however she wants with someone who deserves her.

Bull-fucking-shit. I can guarantee that was not the case. Guys don't have the same insecurity issues that girls do when it comes to their bodies. Seeing his 'bombshell' wife naked in bed ready for him would not send him into an emotional fit that he'd have to show his body in the daylight, then insult her to avoid the situation. That's the product of a manipulative woman's mind, men don't do that shit and play those mind games.

So you'd just have sex with whatever hits on you huh? Clearly he's physically repulsed. Normal people don't do things that they're repulsed by just to "be a man". Having sex does NOT make you a man. Like wow, way over-rated.

this has to be fake. no ones that inconsiderate

:) i want to live in your world, please

Yea me to. Hahah, sorry but seriously, what other universe do you come from.

I have the feeling DWdizzy is kinda young... Because people ARE that inconsiderate, and how. Oh boy, people can be mean sometimes. Anywhere from being the Average Joe jerk to the overlord of all hell.

Where have you been living for your whole life? There's always people out there who are inconsiderate-even more so than the OPs husband. Come back to reality!

Sounds like it's time for someone to hit the gym.

ignore

Wait... you PLAN when you're going to have it? Wow. Way to kill the romance. No wonder it's lacking!

He's an ass, but who PLANS for sex?

So next time you see him naked, point at his dick and burst into hysterical laughter. Then enjoy a good session with your new BOB.

please do.

Maybe Im reading this differently but the fact that her husband said "I forgot you look like that" could actually indicate that OP hasnt "let herself go" like so many of you are insinuating. Maybe her husband was never really that attracted to her and married her for other reasons (children, stability, etc) it does happen. Or maybe his taste in women have changed, Ive known guys who start out attracted to their girlfriend but by the end of the relationship they no longer find her attractive even though she looks the same. Now had her husband made some comment like "wow, you look like that?!" then you could infer that she has let herself go. But based on what he said, she's looked like this for a while. Still, sucks for the OP no matter how she looks to have someone so rude and so prude (hes obviously not trying to spice things up in bed...maybe hes the one that has let himself go). Maybe its time to try getting some counseling, they do have ones that specialize in sex. ;)

Wow your husband is a tactless ass. If he wanted you to lose a bit of weight or whatever he could've been healpful & supportive about it! I bet he doesn't look that great himself! He's a retard.

I doubt this will be read, but if it helps I dated a girl who walked around naked during the day time, I was very attracted to her but the nudity was a turn off. I've always liked a little mystery to the female body, a skirt or a bra or even panties, something I know I'll be removing soon.

Eh some people just arent comfortable with nudity or as you said, like the allure of taking stuff off. Lucky for me my boyfriend is quite the opposite and was thrilled when he found out I preferred not to have clothes on at home ;) To each their own!

Awh this stinks. :[

ha ha that's histerical!!!

lol, witty.

47, you must be some desperate fuck, huh? "fuck her even if she's ugly" huh? sorry, I only fuck 10's. and apparently her husband only fucks 5+'s. :)

Says the ugly asshole.

wow, FYL. i hope my sex life doesn't get to be like that.....

fail.

ydi for being naked

get some cute lingerie?

hahahahahahahaha

My two cents.... Selenes... you, baby girl, are very jaded if you feel that those who are overweight do not deserve respect nor the same attention as we who are fit. And no, I am not overweight. I take care of myself. But, I like my guys with some meat. As for the OP... I agree with SOMAgirl and a few others... Sex is a very big expression in a relationship or partnership and if your husband is that big of a prick, I would consider my options and make the best one for your situation.

I agree. I prefer guys to have a bit more meat on them. I've slept with an underweight guy once (6'0 and 130 lbs) and it was not enjoyable because, even though I'm thin, I was afraid I'd hurt him. I can't imagine how men can find all of these women who starve themselves down to fat and bones to be enticing. I suspect sadism and control issues.

If it makes you feel better, the sight my breasts don't turn my husband on anymore. They are no different than when we were first dating, but because I breastfeed our son, he sees them all the time. But if you have planned sex (on a Tuesday night, of all days) with the lights off, then your sex life is obviously lacking. And apparently your nudity isn't what will spice it up. Try it during the day, unexpected, with most of your clothes on.

Wow. Thats fucked up.

I say use his credit card and get a mommy makeover and when we wants to sleep with you again tell him, "oh I forgot you looked like that"

pfahahahahhahahahahah

Why is saying "first" so bad when your fist so bad?

#8 is a sexist bastard who will never get married or laid or anything. Have a nice life, asshole

wow .. thats mean. he could have at least made up and excuse or somethin instead of saying that.

damn that was really mean on his part. maybe you should just talk to him about it

Why is saying "first" so bad when your fist so bad?

i mean personally i think both partners should do their best to take care of themselves, mostly for their health and personal confidence, and for the sake of their relationship as well. however, what your husband said to you was extremely rude and i think he owes you an apology for that.

Oh hell no! I'd totally whoop his ass

Seriously? People think that he's the bad guy? Yeah, he could have used more tact but I guarantee he didn't say that because his bride looks just as good as she used to. He just isn't attracted to her anymore and that's something that he cannot control.

I'm waiting for the husband to post "Today, my now fat ugly wife tried to have sex with me in the daylight. FML". I'll vote for that.

I agree with #88

Eh some people just arent comfortable with nudity or as you said, like the allure of taking stuff off. Lucky for me my boyfriend is quite the opposite and was thrilled when he found out I preferred not to have clothes on at home ;) To each their own!

i'm gonna be fucking hot as hell even after i get married. i'm not gonna let myself go so i won't ever need to worry bout this =) hahhaha

right bc it's so easy to just stay in shape after children, stresses of life, and getting older

That's no excuse at all. My mother is turning 42 this year and is still a size 4-6 even though she's had three children. The rest of her siblings are overweight because they are lazy and eat fattening shit for every meal. She's not even an exercise/diet freak, she works out for 30 minutes a day and makes good choices at mealtimes. I've been married for nearly a year now and have been extremely adamant about staying trim for my hubby, it's NOT hard to keep track of your weight.

that's nice. i mean, seriously, congrats. but some people don't feel the need to stay a size 4-6. i think that should be their choice.

You shouldn't stay trim for your husband, it should be for you. Your comment suggests that if someone was out of shape in a happy marriage it would mean they are undesirable- therefore expandable. What a shallow outlook on life, and very narrow minded.

Call it whatever you want, but I don't think there's anything wrong with using my other half as motivation to stay in shape. I am aware that people can be overweight and still in a happy marriage, but I could never "let myself go" like some of my own friends have. I find it extremely annoying to see overweight or obese people that have absolutely no reason to be. There's a woman that works out at my gym that has ONE LEG and runs 5 miles nearly every day. Seriously, what is anyone's excuse if people missing appendages are in better shape than they are? This one of the main reasons why other countries hate America.

i don't think people should need a "reason" or "excuse" to be overweight. :/

That's right, no one needs an excuse to be doing what they do with their own bodies. Many things can lead to being overweight, including our emotions. Everyone has a special way of dealing with what comes their way and sometimes eating can be comforting (albeit only for a little while, and people can easily fall into a vicious cycle) or maybe they honestly don't mind if they're over a size 14 because they feel good! It is no one's position to judge another because of their weight. People try to be understanding when it comes to a bunch of senseless shit that people do, yet they can be very hard on the inside when it comes to certain issues, such as weight. Learn to be understanding, sympathetic, and most of all mind your own damn business. It's not your life, and I'm sure half of you do things that are much more despicable than *gasp* overeating! Just count yourselves lucky that your hardened hearts cannot be seen at first glance, because you'd be uglier than any good human being that happens to be overweight.

Maybe he'll be more interested if the next time he finds you naked in bed, you're next to your new 20 year old boi toy.

You've never gotten laid in your life, have you? And heck, if you've been married for more than just a couple of years, weekly sex is pretty damn good.

LOL Ask my 20 yr old boi toy.

maybe she has a pussy troll...

That totally sucks and it seems like your husband is incredibly rude... what an a**

I think that this is a def FML. I didn't want to have sex with my boyfriend bc I had gained so much weight since the beginning of our relationship. I hated my own body so why should he like it? Then one day he said something about the lack of sex since I was always so insistent on doing it all the time. I told him about my insecurity and he said, "But it's just me. I don't care." He was actually insulted that I thought he would care.

loose some weight fatty

meke other men notice how sexy you are, he will feel threatened and do something about it...

Wow people on here are a**holes. Pretty sure the OP posted this cause she felt bad about herself and now everyone is telling her to lose weight and shit. She may not even be fat! you people are just jerks. and to the OP i'm sorry. that sucks.

What the hell is FDI? And YDI?

Hahaha he actually said "Meh?"

Ha, this reminds me of that movie "Why Did I Get Married" and the one black guy always makes fun of his wifes weight.. Sorry though! FYL

Everyone criticizing the OP for being out of shape is extremely shallow. My husband is fit and extremely attractive, but if this changed in the years to come, I would still be attracted to him. I love him for who he is inside, and the person he is is still what I would see if he were 100 lbs heavier. As a spouse, you are supposed to be supportive of your partner through everything. Even if the OP's husband would prefer her to look another way, he is doing a terrible job at demonstrating his love for her (if he does indeed love her) by saying something so hurtful. I would never bring down my husband that way. He is a great person and should be treated likewise, no matter what physical condition he may be in.

Wow Selena, you do know that some people have a really hard time losing wait. My best friend exercises CONSTINTLY and eats barely anything and they are still over weight. And other people I know have a hard time getting themselves to exercise. Not everyone can just lose weight. I myself am not in the best shape and I am always outside exercising!

SERIOUSLY. What it took for me to be a "normal" weight (per BMI): no more than 4000 calories/week and at least 30 hours of exercise/week. Now that I eat 1500-2000 calories/day and only exercise 10 or so hours/week doing stuff I actually ENJOY, I'm BMI-obese. And I'm so much happier and -- guess what! -- healthier. Isn't it shocking that not everyone is meant to look the same?!

I dont think the FML said anything about being out of shape or fat. The marriage may just be suffering, or possibly the man is seeing someone else on the side.

What he said was really mean but I could help but laugh at that response, "Meh, I'm going back to work."

yeah, like he's got the bod of an Adonis. get real, dude! at least you are making an effort.

Hey #19 stfu

well I would give serious thought to how much of a marriage this really is. sounds to me like your the only one trying. if the only way he'll have sex is with the lights off & he acts that way when he sees you nude, the in his mind he's not having sex with you in the dark.

I'm surprised a man opted for lights off sex. It usually starts with bad over head/lights on because nudity is still erotic despite a body type. I wonder if your husband is insecure.

Suffertree: You're a dumbass. True love waits is what my purity ring says. That means you only have sex when you love that person. Sex has to do with your heart and loving that person!!!

even if "u let urself go" after yrs of being married that's a really shitty thing to say to ur wife a person ur supposed to love... but I never get the whole "planning to have sex"... ur hubby is an ass

Oh please. Do you know how many ugly, very fat guys I have seen with super hot women who are expected to maintain? Yeahhh nooo, that's not happening. You want to be fat? Good for you. Unless he has a six pack of abs, pecks and the whole package and a big penis, he shouldn't be talking. I hate guys with huge beer bellies who think they can inflict their stupid standards on women.

Insensitive husband. :(

I'm 12 and what is this

No, no, Tuesday's the night where you both go to your mother's house and he teaches her how to use the video machine again. But Wednesday night is the night that you guys should make love. IT'S BUSINESS, IT'S BUSINESS TIIIIIIIIIIME

#158 - BEST COMMENT EVER

Ahh I'm sorry sweetie!! that's terrible of him=( he's very shallow..next time he wants sex.. say no:)..that jerk!

I'm seriously concerned about the state of your physique if it put him off by such a degree that he was able to make a comment like he did. It's rude, but normal people don't say that unless there's a strong ground for it.

YDI for being married

You got own

aha wat a legend sounds like a stand up guy and i was reading the comments wtf is a gaywod!?!

Mmmmmm maybe you shouldn't have planned sex nights? and I'm sorry.

yeah, ydi for not taking care of yourself. a normal guy presented with anything halfway decent and naked will be unable to resist it. obviously, you are far worse than halfway. YLIFBR (your life is fucked beyond repair).

He didn't forget what you look like. You have sex every Tuesday and you live together. If this is a true story, he's just an ass and I would cancel Tuesday sex as well. If he didn't feel like he could of been more delicate and tried not to hurt feelings.

fat

I would dump the asshole. Obviously your sex life is lacking with an unsensetive jerkoff like that for a husband.

dtmfa

Your husband needs to be deprived of sex for many, many Tuesdays to make up for THAT mishap. You have fingers, vibrators are pretty inexpensive, you'll get by. And to all the nasty guys who think that she's unattractive because her husband didn't throw her up on the counter and fuck her like in an amateur porno, get this: My bf and I are 21 and 19, both in our sexual prime. When HE comes home from work and I'm chilling in lingerie (btw, my dimensions are 41, 36, 38...not even in the ZIP CODE of fat), he would rather take a shower and a nap. So fuck off. Girl, I'm sorry, but either dump that fuck or tell him to get used to sleeping on the couch. FYL.

41,36,38? How tall are you, like 6.5ft? Otherwise... I'd say you were quite husky.

Dear, you don't need scheduled sex, you need marriage counseling.

ookkaaayyyy to all the feminists or whatever writing on here, get over yourselves. its not that hard to stay in shape. i hate how when women (im not saying ONLY women. just cuz it goes with this FML) get married, they let themselves get fat and flabby and yucky just because they think they've already "won over" the man and they dont have to keep trying anymore just cuz they're married, and then they're sooooo surprised when it turns out that the man has a lover on the side. jeeeeez. its her own fault. i wouldnt want to have sex with someone that i wasnt attracted to, so why would he?

divorce that son of a bitch! it doesn't seem like a good relationship anyways.

....HES GAY LOL

he prob said " you know honey i dont know why you bother ive got secretarys that "WORK" for me" lol

wow, ur husbands a dick. if i were u i would tell him he is and say that were not ever having sex again :)

tell him you'd have a threesome he'd listen to you then but other than that i can't help you. i have nothing for this one but divorce him

Holy shit...thats just rude >:O

so much for the unconditional love everyone looks for when they marry. I'm very sorry

That's rude you should insult him in someway while he isn't expecting it.

So by the sounds of things, alot of the people on this site have married doucebags. lol.

Well, I say this a lot here but I hate my own gender D: Men suck.

Fatty. maybe if you worked out and lost the fat that most Americans have. you disgusting fat people.

shut up #198

I'd say to him; you know, you used to be good looking, now your worse than someone I would never have gone for in the first place.

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